Procrastination Edit: Get dat cash money bruh. Dolla bills FOSHOOOOOO <—– Fuccboi talk right there.
If you’re wondering why I’m just talking about myself all the time, it’s because I am no longer writing for an audience. I am only writing for myself. This means, I’m not focused on building an e-mail list, driving traffic or building a readership. And I’m not spending an enormous time editing( which, I think, is where the magic happens in writing). My sole focus with this blog is to document my journey of self-improvement, learning and adventure for my personal reference. Perhaps, I’ll apply some digital marketing ideas for the other domains I’ve purchased( I have other ideas), but not now.
As of now, I’m just going through all the exercises in Think and Grow Rich by Napoleon Hill. I’m on the chapter of ‘Persistence.’ Hill identifies 8 key factors of persistence:
- Definiteness of Purpose
- Definiteness of Plans
- Accurate Knowledge
Persistence is insurance against failure. And for me, I’m writing this to reflect on each of the eight key factors in developing persistence.
1. Definiteness of Purpose: A big problem most people have in their lives, is that they don’t know what they want. And when you don’t know what you want, you don’t know where you’re heading. You’re wandering in the wilderness lost.
For me, I still have a lot of work to do here. I’m still foggy about what my definite purpose is but right now, I feel attracted towards entrepreneurship and teaching. However, thats soooo generic. For now, my strategy is continuous exploration, trying lots of things and seeing where my curiosities take me. The key is to be patient and trust that as long as I keep following this strategy, my definite purpose will clear up a bit more.
How do you know what you like if you haven’t tried it? As the days pass, I really, really believe that everybody who’s still a bit lost needs to just try A LOT of different things.
2. Desire: I spent 5 hours sitting in my apartment thinking about what I truly want. I don’t need to become a billionaire, but I calculated: $3.2 million in my bank account can keep my happy for the rest of my life. This accounts for all the major expenses: wedding, raising children, traveling, living, maybe a house etc. Obviously, with life experiences, my values and desires are going to change. But I think it’s important that I just choose something to aim at first.
As stated in my other post, short-term goal is to earn enough on my own to cover my basic living expenses($2000/month). But in this world, you don’t get something for nothing. So I’m asking myself the question: How can I create $2000/month in value for other people? This’ll shift my mindset from a me-centric, ‘I NEED MONEY’ mindset to a “how can I help others” mindset.
3. Self Reliance: Hill defines self-reliance as “the ability to follow through on your plans.” Throughout my entire life, I never “planned” things. This is good and bad. Cultivating serendipitous experiences wasn’t hard for me, but having no plan meant that I got easily distracted.
Recently, I’ve done a lot to improve this part of myself. I practiced freestyle rap for 30 days straight. I didn’t miss a day. But I also failed in my 30 day social challenge( only completed 17/30 days). One win, one loss. When you lose, I find it useful to pinpoint the area of weakness. I broke the chain of my 30 day challenge, because I started studying copywriting( which I stopped). You can’t do too many things at once.
I’m getting much better at this, but I could use A LOT of improvement. I will learn from my failures and apply them to the projects ahead of me.
4. Definiteness of Plans: Hill says that “organised plans, even though they may be weak and entirely impractical, encourage persistence.” my freestyle rap plan was a pretty “impractical” plan. Who the fuck cares about freestyle rapping? Honestly, it’s not a very ‘valuable’ skill. But I enjoyed it. And it wasn’t necessarily about the skill, it was about following through on the plan I set for myself.
5. Accurate Knowledge: “Knowing that your plans are sound, based upon experience or observation, encourages persistence; ‘guessing’ instead of ‘knowing’ destroys persistence.”
Everytime I make a plan around something, I don’t have heuristics or tools to cross-check for “soundness.” I’m basically going off self-awareness and experiences. I have high self-awareness and I am pretty honest with myself. But I don’t get enough feedback from people outside myself. The problem is that most people are afraid to give honest, feedback. I understand. The social cost of damaging a relationship is high.
But for me, I NEED honest feedback. How the hell am I supposed to know when I’m screwing up if people are afraid to tell me?!? I’m still searching for someone who can give me honest, intelligent AND constructive feedback.
6. Cooperation: “Sympathy, understanding, harmonious copperation with others tend to develop persistence.”
I haven’t put too much thought to this but I’ve always felt that I’ve pretty good at empathizing and listening to other people. I don’t think I comprehend what Hill actually means with ‘cooperation.’
But I’ve noticed, that the more I grow, the less I can tolerate incompetent and stupid people.
7. Willpower: “The habit of concentrating your thoughts upon the building of plans for the attainment of a definite purpose leads to persistence.”
My willpower usually goes through long periods of strength, then small periods of really, really low willpower. Usually, this low willpower occurs when I burn myself out or if I have a hangover. Not really happy with these dips because then all the habits and systems I put in place for myself go to shit. Still experimenting with the best way to guard against my “lower” self.
8. Habit: “Persistence is the direct result of habit. The mind absorbs and becomes a part of the daily experiences upon which it feeds. Fear, the worst of all enemies, can be effectively cured by forced repetition of acts of courage. Everyone who has seen active service in war knows this.”
You become who you surround yourself with.
Most people I associate myself with are cool people, but most aren’t actively pushing me towards my goals. Not to say that it’s their responsibility, but it’s more or less from the perspective of mindset. I’m not surrounded by people with the ambition and drive to make their dreams a reality. Most people I surround myself have relegated themselves to the status quo, which is fine, but not how I want to live my life.
I know this is going to hold me back and I need to make an active effort to surround myself with the right people. It’s much harder with a full-time job but that’s not an excuse. I need to put myself out there more.
I’ll probably be posting more of my exercises from Think and Grow Rich here.