Should I take this advice?
It’s always good to get feedback. You’re trying to create an accurate mental model of the world and you need to know when you’re wrong.
But on the other side of it, what if the feedback isn’t accurate? When you receive advice, you need to be cognizant of the other person’s bias’, beliefs and fears.
That’s life right? Nothing is ever black and what. Nobody is a complete introvert. Nobody is a complete extrovert. It all lies on a scale, the degree determined by context, mood and infinite number of factors.
Even if you ask a super “successful” person for advice, they don’t know your situation. They don’t know who you are as a person. They don’t know your experiences.
Their path to success worked for them. Doesn’t mean it’ll work for you.
On the other hand, if they’re sitting in the chair you want to sit in, their advice is probably a bit more valuable than your jobless friends advice.
Which leads me to the point that everyone has an abundance in opinions. On who should be president. On whether their friend should make that career change. Whether she should stay in that tepid relationship.
Real strength doesn’t come from the gym. Real strength comes from maintaining that independence of mind in the sea of noise, whether you’re listening to a guru or your parents. It comes from having control over which thoughts you accept and which thoughts you reject.
But how do you know which ones to accept and reject?
Welcome to life.